Originally I bought this toy (Strap-on-me's Vibrating bendable strap-on)  for the “conventional” purpose of partnered sex where I wanted to wear a harness/strap that would still provide me with some stimulation. So I chose the vibrating Strap-on-me strap-on, which has 3 motors: a vibrator at the tip of the dildo, at the base of the dildo, and inside the insertable egg piece. The store also offers one without vibrations and one with a clitoral suction on the base. When using this toy “classically” it was overall a positive experience for both my partner and me. We found the vibrations from just one motor strong enough for both of us to feel it. The shape of the insertable egg was tapered enough for me to still wear and stand/walk comfortably without feeling as though I had something “stuck”. As well, the arm that connects the internal and external parts is relatively firm and did not have too much “sagging”, however, the harness that we used also helped keep the toy in place. 

A more non-conventional way to use this toy would be as a solo toy for masturbation. And no, I don't just mean using the vibrating dildo end as a vibrating dildo. Before using this toy with a partner, I wanted to try wearing it/making sure I was comfortable. When I put it on, by inserting the egg side, I was surprised by how stimulating it was. Later on, a thought crossed my mind, Can I use this toy in a more gender-affirming way for solo masturbation? Meaning, could I wear this toy, stroke it as if it were a penis, and get pleasure/be able to orgasm from that stimulation. I decided to grab my lube and give it a go!

I laid back, inserted the toy, turned on some vibrations because why not, dripped some lube down the shaft of the toy, and started doing what I’ve watched cis-men do my entire life. And it was actually enjoyable! I found that during the actual stroking motion I received a lot of g-spot stimulation from the vibrating egg. The base that was vibrating also provided a lot of clitoral stimulation. These factors, as well as the mental scratch that was being itched by feeling as though I was stroking something, combined to give a strong climax that surprised me. 

I believe a lot of the personal satisfaction I got from this masturbation session is due to the fact that I was masturbating in a more gender-affirming way and it allowed me to tap into a form of pleasure I wasn’t aware I could experience. I would recommend this masturbation method to any gender-fluid, vulva-owning individuals who might be curious about masturbating with a penis. Even if you don’t fall into this category, learning about this not-as-common masturbation method can open up your own possibilities to experiment with alternative uses for toys in your arsenal. You might surprise yourself with alternative methods of experiencing pleasure by using your clitoral suction toy on your nipples, or grabbing your magic wand to give yourself or your partner a full body massage with it before getting into the action! There are so many different ways to use an adult toy beyond the “conventional” design and I hope this gives you the encouragement to open up your mind and find pleasure in creative ways!

Check out this research article! https://www.lelo.com/blog/new-research-on-the-female-orgasm/