A friendly little hand shandy with our lover can often intimidate us, but learning a few new techniques can make this an exciting part of foreplay and the most memorable event of the evening. Yes, he knows what technique will get him off fast and furious but really, it’s not you, and when you take the time and effort to provide some new manual masturbation sensations for your partner he will be forever thankful.
First things first, be prepared. Make sure your hands are clean and there are no rough edges or hang nails. It also helps to remove any rings or jewellery. Lubricant is a necessity for keeping things slick, slippery and frictionless. Use water or silicone based lubricant if you’re planning on using a condom later on, but if you’re not then an oil based lubricant such as the Stroke 29 or Rocket Balm is the perfect slippery masturbation cream that will put his pleasure over the top. Always warm up the lubricant (and your hands!) before contacting his skin by placing the bottle in hot water or rubbing your hands briskly together. Keep a towel or pleasure wipes close at hand for quick and easy clean up afterwards.
Get comfortable. It is never fun to be feeling sore or with your body at an awkward angle when you are trying to focus on giving him pleasure, so make sure that you’re in a position where you can comfortably maintain movement for a length of time. Try down between his knees, sitting beside him or coming in from behind him. And remember: how you angle your body for comfort can also give him an erotic view of your body and face, which is an additional turn on.
Getting started. Remember that anticipation is half the fun, run your fingers along his waist band and along his thighs and butt cheeks, everywhere but where he really wants you to touch. Once you do make contact with his genitals keep the contact light to start and make sure to give the entire genital area a light touch or tease to get him ready. When starting to grip his shaft, keep it light at the beginning and then gently pulse or squeeze working your way to a firmer and tighter grip.
The techniques. The foundation of a good hand job is to create an essential up and down movement creating a virtual vagina with your hand. Grip your dominant well lube hand around the shaft and use your alternate hand to stabilize or position his penis. Move your hand in a solid up and down fluid movement without losing contact with his penis, at first work the entire shaft fairly slowly and closer to orgasm speed up and work closer to the head. Be sure to ask for feedback and he will be glad to give you a pointers for what he likes best. Start with a light grip and gradually increase the tightness of your grip without causing any discomfort. Keep your movement steady and fluid; not jerky, and add a slight back and forth twisting motion as you go up and down for varied sensation. Don’t pull the skin with you; just allow your grip to move smoothly over the skin.
Get your other hand in on the action. You can use your less dominant hand to play, tickle and caress his testicles and you can massage his perineum which will indirectly stimulate his prostate. If he likes it, you can stimulate his anus both internally and externally but be sure to give him warning.
It’s good to communicate with your partner about their likes and dislikes, especially with the happy ending. He may prefer you to maintain the firm, quick strokes right up until he ejaculates, or he may prefer a gentler slower motion with his ejaculation. You won’t know until you ask. Finally, it is always a nice touch to help him clean up when you’re done.
Advanced Techniques:
Let’s Twist Again – With each hand, form and okay signal with your thumb and index finger. (You can also use the middle finger if you prefer) Place your hands one on top of the other, starting at the base of the shaft. Twist each hand back and forth in opposite directions as they move in unison up and down the shaft. Be sure to use a good amount of lubrication.
String of Pearls – Using a string of pearls or Bijoux Pearl Handcuffs and a good amount of lubricant, twist the pearls around your hand and then use that hand to stroke up and down the penis shaft. The feel of the jostling beads is fantastic against the penis. Alternatively you can wrap the beads loosely around his shaft and twist them gently as you stroke up and down for an unforgettable finale.
Giving Thanks – Put both your hands around his shaft with your fingers interlocks and your thumbs overlapping on the opposite side. Move up and down with firm pressure. Closing in on the head when your fingers pass it but don’t lose contact with the shaft entirely. You can add a slight squeezing and releasing around the shaft as you go up and down.
