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Erotic New Year’s Resolutions

Saturday, December 26th, 2015

Erotic New Year's Resolutions Vancouver Canada

Do you have a new year’s resolution yet? According to a recent study, the top three new year’s resolutions are to stick to a budget, exercise regularly, and eat healthier. While these are great new year’s resolutions that can help you live your best life, here at Honey Gifts we want you to consider making a few new year’s resolutions to improve your sexual health and happiness, too! Whether you are single, dating, or in a long-term relationship, there are lots of easy and fun ways you can improve your sex life.

Get To Know What You Like – For some women, masturbation is already a part of their sexual repertoire, and that’s great! Others may be exploring their body for the first time. Keep in mind that masturbation is part of a normal and healthy sex life, and can have lots of benefits for the body, too. Sexual health researchers have found that having an orgasm releases tension, relieves stress, and can help you get to sleep. Who knew! Masturbation can also improve your partnered sex life, too. Knowing how you like to be pleasured makes it easier to communicate with your partner what you enjoy. For women that are uncertain where to begin, we recommend trying a versatile and easy to use vibrator that you can use internally for g-spot stimulation and externally for clitoral pleasure, such as the Lelo Gigi 2.

Explore Your Sexual Fantasies – Getting the sex life you really want is about communicating your sexual desires and exploring your fantasies. Feeling a little shy? One way to easily bring up sexual fantasies with your partner is to read short erotic stories to each another, and then talk about what parts of the story that turned you on the most. The Sweet Life: Erotic Fantasies for Couples is a short story anthology for couples to inspire and arouse you. Another great way to share fantasies with your partner is to watch adult erotic films together. Erika Lust’s downloadable adult films are tastefully erotic and sensual movies that celebrate sexuality, intimacy, and genuine passion between couples. Watching an erotic film with your partner can easily and quickly get you in the mood for a night of intimacy, and bring you closer together through your shared sexual experience. If you are starting the new year solo, erotic stories and adult films are a great way to explore your own sexuality, too.

Try Something New – One of the great things about a new year is feeling like you get to start fresh. So why not try something new that you’ve been interested in for awhile now? Whether you are picking out your first sex toy or already have a few, trying out a new adult sex toy can bring a lot of sexual pleasure and enjoyment to your solo or partner sex life. The new Fun Factory G5 Tiger Deluxe Vibrator is a USB rechargeable vibe that has stimulating textured ridges and ultra-strong vibrations. Curious about bondage? The 50 Shades of Kink: Introduction to BDSM book and Beginner Bondage Fantasy Kit will get you started. Want to try a new sex position? The informative Sex Deck accompanied by the supportive Liberator Wedge make it easy to get into different sexual positions.

Have a safe and happy new year’s from Honey Gifts!

Erika Lust: It’s Time for Porn to Change

Wednesday, September 23rd, 2015

Erika Lust, award-winning adult filmmaker from Europe.

Erika Lust is an award-winning female adult film director based in Barcelona, Spain who explores the beauty of sex through adult cinema from a female perspective.

When Erika first began watching pornography, she quickly realised that the adult films that were available were written and filmed by men, and just didn’t resonate with her beliefs and values. Erika firmly believes that adult erotic films should celebrate sexuality, intimacy, and genuine passion, without any degradation or objectification. Keeping this is mind, Erika set out to change the porn industry by creating erotic films with a different perspective then other adult filmmakers.

For 10 years now, Erika has been creating tasteful, artistic adult films for a new generation that are receiving world-wide recognition and praise. Erika’s sexually liberating films are different because they feature women in leadership roles in the process of film making. In Erika’s films, women are behind the camera, directing the action, as well as realising their sexual fantasies in front of the camera. Rather than presenting women as objects to fulfil men’s desires, Erika’s films celebrate women’s desires and focus on pleasure for everyone. In her films, both women and men give and receive pleasure equally in steamy scenes that display authentic arousal, sincere attraction, and real orgasms.

Erika’s sexually explicit films promote positive and healthy forms of sexual expression between consenting adults rather than exploitation and objectification. Through her revolutionary films, Erika is challenging the standards of the adult film industry, making a positive change towards equality by creating erotic adult films that stand behind their values.

Erika Lust’s innovative adult films are available for digital download from Honey Gifts in Vancouver, Canada. Explore Erika’s many different adult film titles here!

Simply add the film you would like to see to your cart and after checkout a private link will be sent to your email address. Click on this link to safely, securely, and privately download the adult film to your home computer.

Watch Erika’s truly arousing adult films in the comfort and privacy of your own home with a digital download from Honey Gifts!

Watch Erika Lust’s inspiring and informative Ted Talk on the subject of pornography below.

50 Shades of Grey

Monday, January 26th, 2015

50 Shades of Grey hits theatres this Valentines Day. Come check out Honey to find all your favourite things from the film, available from the official 50 Shades of Grey collection. Bring in your movie ticket stub for 50 Shades of Grey and receive 10% off anything from the 50 Shades of Grey Official Collection.

Blue Motion NEX1 Bluetooth Vibrator

Monday, October 6th, 2014

The Blue Motion NEX1 from OhMiBod is a creatively designed wearable massager that is worn in a discreet pocket in the beautiful blue lace thong (one size fits most) that is included with this thrilling couple’s vibrator. Download the easy-to-use Android and iPhone compatible smartphone app to discreetly, securely, and privately send your partner pleasurable vibrations. Connect with Bluetooth from up to 26 feet (8 meters) away, or upgrade to the Wifi enabled add-on through a one-time in app purchase to allow you to connect to your partner no matter how far apart you are! Using the app, choose from several different exciting ways to control the vibrations, including Touch (draw a pattern on the screen), Voice (record audio or music), Tap (gently tap the screen), Wave (tilt your device), as well as a pre-programmed pulsating Rhythm setting – the possibilities are endless! The upgraded WiFi enabled version of the smartphone app also allows you to send private text messages and photos to your partner right in the app. The eco-friendly Blue Motion NEX1 is completely rechargeable, charging fully in only 2 hours through a USB connection. With 5 exciting vibration settings utilizing touch, sound, and motion technology, the easy-to-use smartphone controlled Blue Motion NEX1 from OHMiBod connects couples like never before!

Features:

  • Discreet wearable massager fits into the included blue lace thong underwear (one size fits most)
  • Smartphone app allows you to stay in control via Bluetooth at a distance of up to 26 feet (8 meters) away, or upgrade to the Wifi enabled add-on through a one-time in app purchase
  • Send private text messages and photos in-app with the upgraded WiFi version of the app
  • Compatible with both Android and iPhone smartphones
  • 5 different vibration settings – including touch/voice/tap/wave technology
  • Discreetly, securely, and privately send pleasurable vibrations to your partner from your smartphone
  • Hygienic, hypoallergenic material is smooth to the touch
  • Rechargeable battery with USB connection
  • 1-year warranty
  • Charges fully in 2 hours
  • Discreet storage pouch included

Note: Smartphone not included. User must download free app on their own iPhone or Android device. An internet connection is required.

Sexual Tips and How to Use: Gently position the toy in the pocket in the included blue lace thong underwear, with the rounded portion either on or near the clitoris. Download the app to connect for free via Bluetooth or purchase the add-on for WiFi capability. Use the smartphone enabled app to choose a vibration setting. Experiment with the settings for the Blue Motion NEX1 to find the vibration patterns that provide the most pleasure.

Cleaning Advice:
Although this toy is water resistant fully submersing the toy in water it is not recommended; be careful to avoid getting water in the charging port during cleaning. Carefully clean with mild soap and warm water, or use a specially formulated toy cleaner. Dry completely before storage.

Storage Advice:
Store the Blue Motion NEX1 in the included storage pouch to help keep dust at bay.

Sizing and Specs:

  • Width: 4.45 cm (1.75 inches)
  • Length: 10 cm (3.9 inches)
  • Texture: Smooth
  • Material: PU coating, ABS plastic
  • Waterproof: No
  • Power: USB rechargeable

Contact honeygifts.com to answer your adult sex toy questions

Stimulate Your Largest Sex Organ

Tuesday, May 20th, 2014

Are looking for something to read that will titillate? Erotica can be a great way to explore your desires without actually having to attempt to create the fantasy. Erotica can also be a great way to discover things that excite you that you had no idea about. This guide can steer you in the right direction no matter what you are looking for.

Erotica comes in many different styles; from novels that follow a single story to collections that cover a wide range of topics and collections that focus on a single theme.

When thinking of erotic novels that follow a single story the 50 Shades trilogy immediately springs to mind. These novels by E.L. James follow the tumultuous relationship between wealthy businessman Christian Grey and literature student Anastasia Steele as she explores her desires and he learns that there are other routes to satisfying his own. These novels involve BDSM and have been instrumental in opening the door to men and women exploring some of their darker fantasies. The series includes the novels 50 Shades of Grey, 50 Shades Darker, and 50 Shades Freed.

If you are looking for something a little darker, the cornerstone of BDSM stories for years has been the Story of O. This novel by Pauline Reage follows the story of “O”, a photographer, as she submits completely to her lover Rene and explores the underground of the BDSM scene.

Most collections have a minor unifying theme, for example erotica for women, erotica for couples, erotica for lesbians, etc. If you are looking for a very general collection of erotica that will contain a wide variety of stories a great place to start is The Mammoth Book of Best New Erotica. Containing over 45 stories from a multitude of different authors there is sure to be something in this book that gets your engines revving. Some of the best erotica for women is written by Nancy Friday. In her collections she explores themes of female sexual awakening and exploration and provides a wide range of fantasies. Her novels include Women on Top, My Secret Garden, and Forbidden Flowers.

Erotica for couples is a great way to explore fantasies together by reading out loud to one another or both reading the story separately and coming together to discuss or explore. Couples erotica is also a great way to be able to share your fantasies with your partner, if it’s difficult for you to come out and say ‘I want to try (insert desire here)’ then it may be easier for you to say ‘I am really intrigued by what Sally and Joe did in the story we read’. Some great collections of couples erotica are Sweet Confessions, Sweet Life and Sweet Life 2, and Irresistible: Erotic Romance for Couples.

Lots of erotica comes in collections that explore specific themes. If you are looking for lesbian erotica a great collection is Best Lesbian Erotica, an annual collection of the years best lesbian themed erotica collected together in one volume. If you are looking for anal erotica a great collection is Luscious: Stories of Anal Eroticism. This volume collects together 27 unique stories celebrating anal sex. Another theme is aqua erotica, or erotic stories that involve water. A great collection is Wet: More Aqua Erotica, and as an added bonus the book is waterproof so you can take it into the water with you.

Another theme that is explored in erotica is BDSM. Many people are curious about bondage, or domination/submission, and some people are curious about exploring pain, either their own or others. This curiosity  isn’t always easy to explore, ones partner may not be interested, you may be single, or maybe you just aren’t ready to jump into the deep end. While many people are interested in reading an entire novel along these themes many other people find it more desirable to read a series of short stories that explore different situations and that can be read in a single session. Some great collections of BDSM themed erotica include Best Bondage Erotica, an annual collection of the years most celebrated short stories, or Anything for You: Erotica for Kinky Couples a collection falling in both the BDSM and couples categories.

Whatever your desire you are sure to find erotica that matches so explore some of these great stories today and satisfy not just your curiosity.

New Year’s Resolutions with a Twist of Honey

Monday, January 6th, 2014

Make this year’s resolution something fun and arousing!  Here is a list of sexy resolution suggestions that will make 2014 orgasmic!

For men, we suggest you resolve to experience prostate stimulation. Stimulation of the prostate has a host of health benefits such as reducing the risk of prostatitis, prostate cancer, genital pain, symptoms of erectile dysfunction and frequent night-time urination. But aside from all these wonderful benefits is the fact that stimulation of the prostate can result in an orgasm without any stimulation of the penis.  Quality toys designed to work with the male anatomy such as the Lelo Billy Vibrating Prostate Massager, the Naughty Boy P-Spot Vibrator, Aneros Helix Syn Prostate Massager, and the Pandora P-spot toy work to stimulate the prostate with simple clenching and releasing of the muscles to result in a “P-spot” orgasm very similar to a female G-spot orgasm.

For women, we suggest strengthening your pelvic floor muscles while enjoying the stimulating effects of Kegal balls! Pelvic floor exercises; which are also known as Kegel’s have been shown to reduce and prevent urinary incontinence, make recovering from childbirth easier, tighten the vagina and increase sexual pleasure.   Orgasms often become more intense as the muscles that contract are stronger.  The added bonus is that doing these exercises is also fun and easy with tools such as Lelo’s Luna Luxury Pleasure Balls or the smaller Lelo Luna Mini’s, and Cherry Love Geisha Balls. The Luna balls also come in a sleek black version.  These balls have a smaller ball tumbling within it causing the muscles to contract resulting in stronger muscles without the need to clench and release.  Other fantastic products include the Little Gold Balls and the Fifty Shades of Grey balls.

For couples, we suggest learning to give each other erotic massages.  Learning the technique to properly massage the genitals, breast, and backside is not only arousing but primes the body for sex by bringing lots of blood flow to these areas.  Get started with books dedicated to the subject such as Ultimate Erotic Massage and Pure Erotic Massage.  They contain detailed instructions and images to guide you on proper stroke and body placement techniques.   Select a quality massage product such as Barefoot Venus’ Natural Massage OilKama Sutra Massage Oil, massage bar or Intimate Organics Aromatherapy Massage Oil.   For something new, massage candles not only provide a warm oil to massage your partner but also sets the mood with candlelight,  try the Sun-touched Body Massage CandleShunga Caress by Candlelight Massage Candle or the Jimmy Jane Afterglow Massage Candle.  Other massage tools to alternate with are Jimmy Jane Contour M Ceramic Massage Stone or the Hitachi Magic Wand.

We hope we inspired you to add a sexy resolution to your list!

We hope to see you all in 2014 and wish you a sexy, romantic and playful New Year.

Erotic Vacations: Sensual Destinations and Sexy Essentials

Sunday, June 30th, 2013

Want a uniquely sensual and sexy honeymoon? Looking to spice up your marriage with an erotic adventure? Planning a vacation?

As society begins to loosen its grip on the sex lives of its citizens a unique niche in tourism has been created. This new area of tourism is filled with adult only resorts and clubs; from simply the absence of kids to a hedonistic adventure. These resorts cater to those adults who want a truly adult experience and the opportunity to enjoy the wilder side of vacations.

Beginning with the tamer side of sexy vacations is the Temptation Resort Spa in Cancun, an adults only beach front euro style all inclusive resort. This resort is your typical all inclusive resort but is adult only and designed with a sexy getaway in mind.

If you are looking for a little more adventure but still don’t want to dive right in to the deep end then how about a nude vacation? There are two destinations perfect for a clothing optional honeymoon or vacation.

The first destination is a chain of resorts called Caliente Club and Resorts that are completely clothing optional. Choose from multiple options including their Tampa Florida destination, their Caribe destination in Abreu, Dominican Republic, and finally Caliente also offers clothing optional cruises.

The second destination is an entire town in beautiful France. The Cap D’Agde Naturist Village isn’t clothing optional, this location has rules regarding the wearing of clothing! Everything you could need, bars, restaurants, camping, or hotels, and a beach are available in this one location and all of it is clothing optional.

If pure pleasure is the aim of your getaway then look no further than Hedonism II in gorgeous Jamaica. This resort has 2 options, nude or prude, where you can choose which side of the resort to stay in and everything is paid upfront so no need to worry about tipping. This resort is truly all about pleasure!

Looking for the ultimate in erotic vacations? Check out Schloss Milkersdorf a beautiful castle in Germany that hosts erotic parties every Friday and Saturday night. Check out their list of parties and read the details to find the perfect experience for you and your lover.

When packing for your honeymoon or erotic vacation make sure to bring the essentials so you have them close at hand when the mood arises. Lubricant is always a good thing to have on hand as is massage oil. If you plan on partaking in a menage-a-trois or a night of swinging while away don’t forget to pack  condoms. Sexy lingerie for a sexy vacation or bridal lingerie for the wedding night are great additions to any suitcase and don’t forget any toys you want to play with while away. There are some great mini toys perfect to fit in your luggage and waterproof toys for those aquatic adventures. One highly recommended toy for a couples vacation is the fantastic We-Vibe III, not only is it waterproof, made for couples, and has a remote control but the charging stand is also a travel case. With vacations in mind there are many kits that include pretty much everything you need in convenient travel sizes and some even come with their own cases.

Plan for an erotic vacation and don’t forget to make a list before you pack so that your time away can be relaxing, indulgent, and incredibly sexy!

The Beauty of Shibari

Tuesday, June 4th, 2013


What is shibari? We get this question all the time at Honey.

Shibari, also known as Kinbaku, means ‘the beauty of tight binding’ and is an old Japanese art dating back to the beginning of the 1800’s. Shibari gained prominence in Japan in the 1950’s when it began to be featured in magazines and displayed at shows and soon after the western world became captivated by the elegance and beauty that can be expressed with a simple length of rope and two willing partners.
Japanese bondage is distinguished by the use of specific ties and aesthetic rules. Shibari is more about the way the rope is applied and the partner in control of the rope often uses it as an expression of communication, this makes it perfect for couples looking to explore new sexual avenues in a safe, trusting environment.

Getting started in shibari is a simple endeavour with access to today’s internet, simply type shibari into the YouTube search bar and plenty of instructional videos are available or enter the term into Google and plenty of sites show up with step by step walkthroughs for simple to complex knots.

Traditional shibari is done with course hemp or jute rope but as it gains prominence in North America people are branching out to try new materials. One of the new materials that is becoming especially popular is Japanese silk rope. Some companies are even coming out with pre-tied simple restraints for the wrists and ankles.

Now what to do with your partner when they are all tied up? There are plenty of different avenues you can take depending on the type of pleasure you and your partner are looking for. If you are looking for a sensual experience that indulges the senses try lighting a massage oil candle to fill the room with scent and then drip the oil onto your partner for an erotic massage. Play some sensual music to stimulate the sense of hearing and blindfold your partner to enhance their other senses such as touch which can be stimulated with different sensations such as feathering.

On the other hand if you are looking for a kinkier experience try using a whip or paddle on your bound partner. With harness ties that leave the chest exposed try a pair of nipple clamps or a nipple to clitoris clamp set.

If you are looking to tease your partner to the brink of orgasm try some clitoral stimulation with a powerful small vibrator or stimulate the g-spot with a specially designed g-spot toy. If your man is the one trussed up try a Tenga Egg for a mind blowing hand job or try some BJ Blast for a stimulating oral sex sensation.

If you or your partner is worried about comfort during the process you should experiment with some simple ties first to get a feel for how tight you enjoy it and which places the rope may feel uncomfortable. A few simple tricks can make the experience easier and more comfortable for both partners. One idea is to place a waterproof lined plush blanket beneath the partner being tied; this will make their experience lying still more comfortable and also protects your bedding, furniture, or flooring from oils if giving your bound partner a massage. Another idea is to use sex furniture to help position a partner when doing a tie that requires the bound partner to remain in a certain position for an extended period of time, this will make the experience more enjoyable for both partners and can also extend the amount of time you and your partner can play.

Shibari is a beautiful art form that is sexy and fun but be sure to watch for how tight the bindings are and if you are doing suspensions make sure to work your way up to it, do lots of research, and have the right equipment on hand.

For some beautiful images of shibari please check out our shibari pinterest board..

Fantasies-Get into Character

Tuesday, October 2nd, 2012

Puck Me

He had been looking forward to hockey season all summer long. So you can imagine how bummed he was when he tore his ACL in August. “You’re going to need reparative surgery. No hockey this season. No sports for at least 6 months.” the doctor said.

A couple months into winter, he started to become stir-crazy. So I decided to take action! Our next date night, I put on my sexy hockey player dress, slid my striped socks up to my thighs, and took off my underwear.

“I was wondering if you wanted to play some hockey tonight for our date?” I yell from the other room.

“That’s so mean! You know I can’t play!” he shouts, a little disheartened.

“I think you’ll be up for this game” I say as I walk over to him and grab his cock through his pants. He laughs, nervously, waiting to see what my next move is. I throw him a hockey stick and a puck. “If you can score a goal, then I’m all yours. If not, you have to watch me masturbate until I’m satisfied, but you don’t get to touch me.”

I could tell by his gaze that he was game. I turned around and spread my legs, bending slightly at the hips to reveal my pussy. “Take your best shot” I say, trying to distract him. And it’s working.

“Baby you know if turns me on when you expose yourself to me like that.”

“Really? I had no idea.” I say playfully as I start stroking my pussy. “I guess you’ll just have to focus harder. Because this feels good and I have no intention of stopping until you take that shot.”

I turn around to meet his gaze. His eyes are burning with desire as he watches me. I bend a little further, reaching around to touch my pussy from behind. I’m getting wet and starting to flush. I moan. Loudly.

“Getting distracted by your own distraction?” He says, with a smug smile on his face. Determined to prove him wrong, I make my finger disappears inside my pussy. “That’s right. You better get yourself ready for my cock,” he whispers, “because after I make this shot, you’re going to need it.”

I start fingering myself faster, aroused by his encouragement and thoughts of what’s to come. This time, it’s he who moans. I picture him watching me pleasure myself, and it turns me on more. My breath is getting shorter.

When is he going to take the shot? I can’t take much more. My hips begin to grind against my hand as I move my other hand down to my clit. “Just like that, Baby. I want you to get yourself close.” Both hands are now moving furiously, and I’ve gotten so lost in feeling good that I am completely taken by surprise when I see a puck fly through my legs.

“Game on.” He breathes in my ear, and before I know it I feel his cock thrust into me, deep and hard, as the orgasm takes over my body.

50 shades of Honey

There’s that look again. The one that makes my clit throb. I anticipate his words “get into position. Now.” I quickly stand and scurry to his room, anxiously awaiting the things he’s going to do to me. I kneel to the ground with my hands on my thighs and my eyes on the floor. Soon I’m looking at his feet as he stands in front of me. “Get up” he says, and I eagerly jump to my feet. As I stand, I notice the array of toys he’s laid out for us; for me.

My thighs flush as he pushes me face down into the bed. I smell the leather cuffs as he puts one around each wrist, followed by each ankle. As he brings them back to hogtie me, I let out a breath of excitement. “What did I tell you last time about making noise?” he says as his gaze burns deep into mine. “Not until I say you can.” His voice is deep and passionate as he thrusts the ball gag in my mouth. Bound, gagged, and helpless, just a naked body ready to be used for his pleasure. And I want it so badly.

I follow his glance to the tables of toys, wondering where it will land. He smirks and grabs the nipple gel. As he rubs some into each nipple, I squirm underneath him from the sudden rush of cold and excitement. “I love getting your nipples hard like that. Next we’ll get your clit” He grabs the O’my gel. Immediately I am writhing under the sensation, wanting to cry out for him to touch me deeper. But my moans are muffled by the ball gag.

He reaches out again. This time I see the glimmer of the pure wand dildo before it slides out of my sight. I feel my pussy slowly being spread followed by the warm steel of the dildo inside of me. As he rocks it back and forth, my pussy fills with the burning desire to come. I start to thrust my hips harder against the rhythm of the dildo, trying desperately to come in my restrained position. Just as I am about to explode, he takes the dildo out. “You didn’t think it would be that easy, did you?”

Feeling helpless and stimulated, my body begins to move against the bed in a desperate attempt to stimulate itself. He laughs at me, knowing I want to come so badly. My face is red and my breath is amplified. The ball gag has gotten wet from my desperate breathing, but not nearly as wet as my pussy. I hear the buzz of the  Hitachi magic wand and know it won’t be long now. I feel the vibration on my inner thighs, my pussy lips, and finally on my clit. “That’s right. Come for me baby” is all I hear as the vibrations take over my pussy and radiate throughout my body. As my body crashes and I come back to reality, I open my eyes and see him smiling at me. “Oh baby, that’s only that beginning” he says, as he unzips his pants.

Bad Cop

My husband has been asking me for years to dominate him. You know, with handcuffs and crops and things I don’t have any idea how to use. I have always been hesitant, but last week he bought me sexy police officer costume. And asked me to pick out the rest.

When I took it out of the package I could feel my flesh starting to tingle. Do I really have it in me to take full seductive and aggressive control over my husband? I slip into the dark blue gartered dress and am immediately hit with a sense of empowerment. Looking at the mirror, I see how the dress hugs my breasts and shows a glimpse of my ass when I bend over. My sense of empowerment begins to grow as I pull up my fishnet stockings. By the time I’m zipping up my black boots, I am ready to take control. I begin to strut, letting my boots fall heavy on my floor. With each step, my police persona takes over a little more and before long I am walking and talking with the confidence of the sexiest cop on the force.

I take the handcuffs I bought yesterday out of the package. The metal feels cold as I twirl them around my finger. Oh yeah, these will be perfect. I reach for my new blindfold and place it next to the bed. I can see him now – sprawled on the bed, handcuffed with his arms behind him, blindfolded, defenseless, and anticipating my next move. I picture myself arresting him and throwing him against the wall for his mandatory strip search. I rip of his clothes and begin to run my new riding crop up and down his naked body, watching as his cock gets bigger with anticipation. I tell him he’s going away for a very long time, unless, of course, he and I can work something out. With his face in my hand, I tell him how he can pay for his crimes, and all it takes is for him to listen and obey everything I say. His eyes widen in excitement as I grab the riding crop again. I am in control, and he is all mine…

The sound of the front door opening quickly snaps me out of my fantasy. “Honey, are you upstairs?” I hear him say. “Yes”, I respond, “And you better get up here. There’s a police officer here and she has some questions for you.”

Extra Credit

Role-playing is hot. My wife and I have tried it a few times before. I love getting lost in our character’s dirty ideas. So when she said she wanted to try something new, I wasn’t surprised. I was just eager to find out what it was. After a few months had past and I had finished my first semester as a high school teacher, I came home one day to find a desk sitting in the middle of my living room.

“Mr. Davis?” she calls as she crosses her legs, showing me a glimpse of her thighs under her plaid skirt.

“Y-yes?” I stammer, trying to avert my eyes quickly so she doesn’t catch me.

“I had a question about number 5. Could you please come over here and help me?”

Trying to hide my growing erection, I walk up next to her and look over her shoulder. She smells like vanilla and looks like a teen boys wet dream.  Her shirt is open one button more than usual, I can’t help but look and when I do she locks her eyes on mine and pushes her breasts together. Her fullness pushes against her blouse, showing me a peek of her red bra underneath.

“What were you having trouble with?” I ask, as I move in closer. She smells so good.

“I feel the answer I gave was correct and should not have been marked down as much as I was.”

Lisa has never been a student who cares about her grades, and so I am surprised she is readily combative about a 2 point test question. I reach down to read why she lost points, but her original answer is crossed out. Underneath it, all it says is “I turned 18 yesterday.”

Startled, I glance over at her. “And my panties match my bra” she says. “I would love for you to take them off with your mouth.”

My pants are quickly tightening as she parts her perfectly glossed mouth.

“When?” is all I can manage to utter.

She’s looking at me and stroking her thighs and all I can think about is pulling up her skirt, pushing her panties to the side and tasting her until she begs me to stop.

“If we’re going to do this, then you better wear that uniform.”  is all I can say as I walk back to my desk before anybody notices my excitement.

“I love our sex together” she whispers, breaking character for one second to reconnect with me. “Me too, Mrs. Davis” I say to my wife of 7 years. “Now, let’s talk about how you can make up those points you lost.”   

Rough Sex

Monday, July 30th, 2012

Let’s face it, rough sex is hot! Some people like it for its aggressive and instinctual in-the-moment rawness, while others like it for the control or total release of control. Still, there are those out there who like rough sex because it allows them to put their safety, trust, and pleasure in the hands of somebody else. Rough sex does not appeal to everyone but for those who want to give it a try, we have you covered on how to bring up your kinky desires with your partner, and then how to put those desires into action!

Having the Talk
You want to be sure to talk to your partner before springing some rough sex techniques on them even if talking about your desires with your partner can be intimidating and difficult. To begin, find a way to talk about rough sex in a broad and casual way. Read or discuss the 50 shades of Grey series and why it is so popular, watch some porn together that has a few rough sex techniques in it, or casually mention that you were reading about it on our blog. Once you gauge your partner’s initial feelings and desires toward rough sex, begin to expand your conversation to include what turns you on about it and what aspects turn you off. Once the conversation really gets going and the idea of engaging in rough sex becomes a reality, establish hard boundaries about what you want and don’t want. Be sure to be specific (for example, “I want you to slap my ass and my breasts, but not my face”) since it’s hard to be vocal about your desires when you are in the heat of the moment. Also, be sure to address if there are any places you don’t want to be hit especially if it may leave marks that’s visible to others.

Even if you and your partner communicate well and establish boundaries before rough sex, boundaries can sometime gets crossed or a partner can become uncomfortable with the situation. For these reasons, it is important to have a nonverbal and verbal safe word. The safe word can be anything you want and anything that you wouldn’t normally shout out in sex, whether the sex is rough or vanilla. Common safe words are “yellow” for “I’m close to my limit of endurance” and “red” for “I cannot tolerate any further demands and the session needs to end immediately”. If you’re going to be gagging or choking each other, be sure to establish a nonverbal safe word, such as a patterned tap on a certain part of the body. You can also give your gagged partner something to hold (like a scarf) that they can drop as a sign they have reached their limit. Remember that you don’t have to go from 0 to 10 in one session. You can start slow and take your time rediscovering your partner and your desires from session to session. You can also try combining different techniques and intensities to find those that give you the maximum enjoyment. Engaging in rough sex opens up a whole new realm of sexuality to discover, so sit back and enjoy the sensations.

Hair pulling
Hair pulling can be very intimate and erotic during missionary position or steamy and controlling in a rear-entry position like doggie style. However, that doesn’t mean it has to hurt. To make it erotic rather than painful, you should grab the hair near the scalp in the back of the head. The farther from the roots you pull, the more it stings. To make it easier, try wearing your hair in a ponytail. Or for some sexy role-playing, put on your favorite school girl outfit and throw your hair into some braids.  Looks like you’re going to have to earn that extra credit!

Face Slapping
Although slapping can be seen as demeaning or violent, there are ways to make it erotic and pain-free.  Nothing gets your partner’s direct attention faster than a slap to the face. You can lightly tap their chin or cheeks or give them a firmer slap across the face. For added effect, hold your partner’s head firmly with your other hand as you slap them. Remember to always hit with a firm hand and to start soft and get progressively harder as your partner’s pleasure becomes heightened. And remember, you never want to hit the face straight on and never ever hit the area around the temple.

Spitting
If you and your partner are interested in including spitting into your sex life, a great place to start is oral sex. Start by bringing the tip of your mouth to your partner’s genitals and just releasing a little fluid. Keep releasing more fluid with more force as you move your head further and further from their body. Once you feel comfortable, start moving up their body to their stomach, chest, and eventually face. Be sure to keep water nearby in case of any dry mouth issues and avoid spitting straight in your partner’s open eye.

Choking
The act of choking or the oxygen deletion that results might scare some, but for others it really heightens sensations and makes orgasms harder. There are a few different kinds of choking. The psychologically-exciting pseudo choke is when one partner places their hand around their partner’s neck and applies little to no pressure. The medium choke is one step further with a firm, even pressure. There’s the all-out aggressive choke that should not last for more than 5 seconds. This one definitely requires boundaries and non-verbal safe word discussion beforehand. Once you’ve tried a few different techniques, try switching it up with an off-guard aggressive choke (where you begin choking your partner suddenly without warning), the multi-hand choke (for the ultimate feeling of domination) or using a prop such as a scarf or sashay blindfold to choke your partner. For added eroticism, try kissing, slapping, or spitting on your partner while you’re choking them.

**Remember that choking can quickly get out of hand.  For this reason, you always want to be in communication with their partner before and during the choking and keep an eye on them to make sure they are enjoying themselves. As the dominant, you are responsible for the well-being of your partner and should always have their safety as your number one priority.

Back to Reality
Now that you’ve engaged in rough sex, take some time to reflect on it as a couple. Be sure to take some time and address anything that made you uncomfortable during the session. Maybe a boundary was crossed or a partner felt like they hit the other too hard. Listen actively to your partner and be sure to settle any discrepancies before engaging in rough sex together again.  You should also take some time to reflect on it personally. How did it make you feel? How do you feel about it now that the session is over? What do you want to try again and what turned you off? Be sure to discuss these answers with your partner too.                                                              

Now that you’re prepared, it’s time to start playing hard.  So pull your hair back, warm up your slapping hand, and remember to have fun with it!