Getting aroused is all about preparing your body for the act itself. Your heart kicks it up a notch, blood pressure rises and muscles tense. Blood flow to your nether-regions increases, making it hard to think.

Here are some ideas on how to turn guys and gals on:

• For her, many consider the clitoris the golden ticket.
  Massaging with a gel will keep things slick while boosting her sensitivity by increasing blood flow to the clitoris. Plus, adding clitoral stimulation while also stimulating the G-spot will send her over the top. Not just for use with a partner, it will help a woman help herself. (We recommend O Clitoral Stimulating Gel)
• But don’t dive for the clit right away.
  Start with massaging her other parts. Breast stimulation is fun for both him and her.
• For him, it’s visual and tactile. For her, it just feels darn good when done right.
  Symmetry, equal attention to both sides, is essential, as is starting slowly and gently. No cold hands please – massage oil can help keep things warm. Most importantly, read her cues. Some women prefer you keep it gentle, while others enjoy a nip. (To help tease and add a tasty sensation,we recommend using a flavored lube or Kama Sutra Honey Dust.)
  
• Less explicit things.
  Sexual arousal is often piqued by less explicit things and can start with seemingly non-sexy acts such as her partner taking out the garbage or preparing dinner, not to mention cleaning up afterwards
• Physical affection without sex helps up arousal.
  Touching – hugs, cuddles, kisses – all build the electricity for her. When having sexual contact, build it up with plenty of foreplay, focusing on the whole body, not just her sexual bits.
• Separate from work.
  Separate stress from work and other outside sources from your life as a couple. An added bonus is stress release can lead to sex, sex being the ultimate in stress release. Does your partner like a deep or gentle massage? You never know where a well-timed foot rub may lead.
• More than just Pete.
  Though men and women alike joke that men can only function mentally when their other head is not in use, to truly arouse a guy, it’s about more than just Pete – remember the boys, the neighboring perineum, and sometimes a little anal play is more than welcome.
• Mouthwash adds sensation.
  More suction doesn’t necessarily translate to good head. Teasingly licking his balls and shaft will help build up to the moment. Gargling with mouthwash beforehand, in addition to giving you minty fresh breath, will give him a tingly sensation.
• Stimulate his P-spot.
  While giving him head or hand, help finish him off with a perineal massage or stimulate his P-spot (prostate) with butt play. The perineum is the super sensitive spot between his testicles and anus. Press firmly and pump with a finger or knuckle to send him over the edge. Straight men who claim their butt is one-way only have likely never had the nerve-rich anus explored. A lot of lube, gentle touch and small toy. (We recommend the Finger Fun Vibrator - it can be a real eye opener. )
• Visual turn-ons.
  Then there are the visual turn-ons. Looking for something you can enjoy together, beginning to end? How about shopping for porn together? Yes, women like and are turned on by porn. It just has to be the right kind – there’s more out there than ‘70s porn with bad music and bad facial hair. The selection is tremendous, with women-directed flicks, natural bodied actors, plot-filled films and out-and-out sexfests.
• Suggested Reading material for him.
  Sexpert Lou Paget’s How To Give Her Absolute Pleasure book is chock full of ideas on how to build intensity.
• Suggested Reading material for her.
  Paget explores how to blow his mind too in How To Be a Great Lover. It’s about more than the penis, from his neck down to his perineum, testicles and, ahem, into his P-spot (prostate).