Stimulating the prostate can make a man’s orgasm much more intense. Stimulating the area around and just inside the anus is extremely erotic and pleasurable for men. Men have become more comfortable enjoying this erogenous zone without feeling any stigma and over the years at Honey we have expanded our selection of toys for P-spot play for couples discovering this area together and enjoying a sexually satisfying relationship.
Where is the Prostate?
The prostate is a walnut sized gland that is located above the perineum (the area just behind the testicles), below the bladder and behind the pubic bone.
The P-Spot is the area of the prostate gland that can be felt when you insert a well-lubed finger and gently curve your fingertips upwards towards his belly, about 1 – 2 inches inside. Make sure your nails are well trimmed with no sharp edges! It is not always easy to feel at first but with stimulation and arousal it will become larger and firmer and easier to feel and stimulate especially as he nears orgasm.
Stimulating the P-Spot
Use a firm yet gentle ‘come hither’ motion with your fingers for stimulating the P-spot. You want to press with a firm pressure but not too hard, as you do not want to cause pain, but firm enough that your partner can feel the stimulation. Communicate openly (and erotically) and have him tell you to press harder or lighter. Once you have an idea of the location of your man’s P-spot, using a toy designed with a curve for P-spot stimulation can be easier and more comfortable as you would just need to gently thrust against the prostate to provide added stimulation.
You can use your fingers, toys and butt plugs to stimulate the P-spot. Some great small toys such as the Fun Factory Bootie, Lelo Bob and Pandora are all curved to perfectly hit the P-spot and have enough flex and bend to provide comfort. The Pandora also provides vibration and pulsating sensations for intense orgasmic pleasure. Larger plugs and dildos such as the Fun Factory Bloomy and Nexus Neo are a little larger in size to provide a fuller sensation with the curved end for P-spot stimulation.
Another option for the adventurous is the use of harness and curved dildo. She slips on a harness with a dildo such as the Bend of Beginner or Intermediate Kit and can “peg” him with the curved dildo to provide him with the sensation of fullness, intimacy and P-spot stimulation. When “pegging” him from behind you want to point the curved end of the dildo downwards towards his belly to maximize P-spot arousal.
Safety and Trust
Always make sure to communicate with your partner if something is uncomfortable or causing pain, especially with anal play you want to make sure you and your partner are comfortable with expressing your likes and dislikes.
Keep your toys and hands clean when enjoying anal play. Make sure to fully clean your toys, we recommend silicone dildos, as they are non-porous and can be sterilize by boiling them or placing them into the dishwasher. Use a sex toy cleanser like Safe Suds or Climax Burst Sex Toy Cleanser to clean toys after each use and always wash your hands before and after playtime.
Lubricate, Lubricate, Lubricate!
Always make sure to lubricate the anal area and toy before insertion. Lubrication will help make everything slippery and increase sensitivity; smoothing the way for prostate enjoyment. A thick water based lubricant is recommended such as the Slippery Stuff, ID Glide or JO H2O. Silicone based lubricants such as Pjur are also a great option if you are not using any silicone toys. They do not dry out and even stays slippery under water!