Corsets have been around for a very long time, most notably in the Victorian Era when corsets were used by both men and women to give a desirable shape for underneath elaborate clothing. Women would force their waists in as tiny as possible for the sake of fashion.  Back then, corsets were made with actual bones.  In todays world, corsets are still very popular for special occaisions like bridal wear, burlesque dancing and fashion, or just for fun bedroom seduction.

The wonderful thing about the form fitting quality of a corset, bustier, or basque is that no matter your size; from slim figured to plus size, they make you feel like a goddess accentuating your womenly curves.

What’s the difference between a Basque, Corset, and Bustier?

Basques: A basque is made of a lightweight material usually with plastic boning in the important areas around the waist and bust. The fit is usually snug emphasizing and accentuating your shape. Usually it features a hook and eye closure.  The Coquette Dot Mesh Teaser features burlesque styling and soft boning for a gorgeous fit.  The Satin and Lycra Set is a wonderful basic that can be worn easily under clothing right into the bedroom for an evening of seduction!  Sweet and sassy styles with vintage inspirations are the new Vintage Rose and Victorian Dreams sets.

Corsets: A corset is made from steel or plastic boning that will significantly bring in the waist and push up the breasts.  This greatly accentuates the womenly hour glass shape by cinching in the waist and widening towards the bust and hips. They can be worn as outerwear or underwear and features a lace up back for cinching the corset closed. The burlesque inspired Burlesque Corset, Skirt, and G-String set is stunning and can even be worn as outerwear, but if you preference is more demure and vintage the I’m Yours Vintage Corset brings out the inner Contessa with its old world styling.

The White Brocade Corset is lightweight and perfect for underneath bridal gowns. 

Bustiers: Bustiers are generally shorter, reaching just past the ribs or at the top of the waist. They are usually made from stretchy and sheer materials and do not feature boning but use under wiring and tailored fitting for a snug form fitting look. Some sexy sheer styles include the Embroidered Lace Lingerie Set and the Cupcakes Retro Cami and Thong Set.

Which Boning to Choose?

Plastic boning is nice because it is strong but still pliable, it will help you create the hourglass figure without significantly changing your bodies measurements. Plastic boning is great if you are wanting to wear the item out on the town or for performances such as burlesque or giving your partner a fun strip tease as you can still have ease of movement.

Metal boning is very strong and can reduce your waist measurements by up to 4 inches. Metal boning is very strong and supportive but it will reduce your ability to slouch or twist your body easily while wearing it.

Getting the Right Fit

For plastic boned corsets, basques or bustiers you want to fit it to your bra size. For example if you are a 32A,B or C cup you would choose the size 32. If you cup size is larger then a D you would want to choose to go up a size to a 34.  If the sizes run according to a small, medium, large; the measurements usually refer to the rib cage size. For example a small would fit a 32, medium a 34 and a large would be 36. A bust size is not included because a plastic boned corset is flexible enough to range between an A – D easily.

Metal boned corsets are sized by the waist circumference as they are designed to reduce your waist size so you would want to go with this measurement.

To get your waist measurement you need to stand up straight and measure the slimmest part of your stomach just under the ribs.

Since you are trying to reduce your waist size you need to then take your natural waist measurement and then deduct 3 to 4 inches to get the size of your corset. For example if you have a 28 inch waist then you will need a corset that is a size 24. If you are concerned about that size being too tight then you can only reduce by 3 inches from your natural waist. The point of a steel boned corset is to slim the waist and to boost the bust, so it should be a snug fit.

Getting it on!

Bustiers and Basques are generally quite easy to get into as they usually use hook and eye closures like a bra but getting into a Corset can be a little tricky at first, but with some practice you should be able to slip it on without any help.

First you need to loosen the laces enough that the corset fits around your natural waist easily. Next you should wrap the corset around you so that it is sitting correctly, turn so that you can see what you are doing in a mirror and begin tightening the laces one by one starting at the top and working your way down. To stop them from re-losening you hold onto the first lace you tightened then pull the one beneath it while still holding the one above, work you way down this way until you reach the middle of the back where the first laces stop. Give them a final pull and tie them in place.

Then tighten the bottom set of laces working in the opposite direction from bottom to top, tighten at the middle and tie away the excess.

Getting it off!

Getting yourself out of a corset is a lot easier then getting it on. Simply untie the laces until it is loose enough that you can easily undo the clasps at the front. Taking the time to loosen the laces and not forcing the front will help lengthen the life of your corset so take care.

 Trying a bustier, basque, or corset for the first time can be quite fun and the effect it has on your partner will be memorable!

What better way to make use of your furniture then by incorporating it into a hot, new position?  All you’ll need to pull off the Stopperage position are a few couch cushions, a flat surface and a few well-chosen, dirty words – but with some creativity, it won’t be long before you start looking at all your furniture in a whole new way.

She’ll start out by lying back on the bed and raising her hips as he places a cushion (or two) under her buttocks.  You can also use the liberator or position play pillows for support. Take time positioning the cushions so they’re directly under her butt and not the small of her back.  Her pelvis should be slightly tilted upward.  She’ll then bend her knees, pulling them toward her chest as he moves forward and penetrates her.  The Stopperage is completed as he leans forward, places his hands on either side of her and thrusts deeply. 

Having her knees drawn up will effectively contract her vagina, making for a nice tight fir as you enjoy face-to-face intimacy.  To get the perfect angle, couples can use a “sex wedge”, a firm, foam pillow made especially to get into new positions.  This angle makes for very easy penetration so he should be careful not to get too deep before she’s fully aroused, because this can sometimes be painful for women.

Whether you are apart for a few weeks, a few months, or even years; keep it hot and heavy!

 Snail Mail

It is exciting to receive things in the mail.  You know your partner has picked out something meaningful for you.  It can be something as simple as a card, personalized letter, or a package with a small reminder of something sentimental like their favorite snack or a CD with memorable songs.  Receiving something in the mail is so much more exciting than emails and tells the person on the other end you are putting time and consideration into the relationship.  The Hug ‘n Kisses Couples Coupon Book … or X-rated is a great way to send a love token in the mail.  Filled with romantic and racy rendezvous to be redeemed when you meet up, it will be sure to keep conversations hot and imaginations revving.  Receiving this in the mail will be sure to put a smile on your partners face!

If you are unable to see each other for longer stretches of time then send something a little more daring once a month or once even a week. Gentlemen if you are gone why not send her a luxurious toy like the Lelo Ina, or for a pleasurable and fulfilling reminder of yourself, the Clone-a-Willy Kit; this kit creates an exact replica of your manhood and makes it into a vibrating sex toy.  Ladies, don’t forget that men don’t often get treated to sexy underwear and they love it when they do!  Mansilk Trunks are sexy and comfortable, made of 100% silk knit and slightly sheer for high sex appeal.  A fun toy for him would be the Intimate Grip Stroker for his solo playtime but can be used together during fellatio when you are together. 

Many of Honey’s sex toys or sexy lingerie would be thrilling to send/or receive…combined with some hot and heavy telephone or web cam time and you can be assured the flames will be blazing.

Telephone and Cell phones

Our telephones can do so much for us these days so between your computer and cell you can keep in constant contact.  Sexting has gotten such a bad rap these days but sending naughty and explicit texts can be a fun and arousing way to play with your partner throughout the day.

Phone sex is an obvious option but make the most of it by improving your dirty talk.  The Fine Art of Erotic Talk is well written and one of the top rated books for refining your erotic speech whether in bed, web cam or on the phone.  Reading erotic books to each other such as Sweet Life or Best Women’s Erotica 2010 can get the imagination going and fantasies alive.

 Connecting through the computer

Set up a sexy evening using some sexy lingerie that your partner sent you or you picked out together online, erotic movie that you can watch together, and/or sex toys in front of the web cam.  It’s daring and risqué but doing this with a partner you have full trust in is important.  

Being physically far apart can be difficult in a relationship but with some creative effort it can still include arousing and sensual experiences.

The Mare is a great opportunity for ladies to show off their pelvic floor muscles.  These muscles stretch from the pubic bone to the tailbone and if kept strong and healthy (through regular Kegel exercise), can be contracted around a penis for an extra tight fit.  Once she’s gripped him hard, a woman can lean into The Swing, the second phase of this technique, thus completing this sexy rear-entry position.

This position starts with him sitting up with his legs in front of him.  As he leans back on his hands, she kneels astride his thighs, with her back facing him, and slides onto his penis, forming The Mare.  At this point she should squeeze and relax her vaginal muscles around his penis, as she slowly moves forward, resting her hands on his thighs.  She’ll have even more control as she moves into the second phase by walking her hands down his legs and placing her hands onto the bed on either side of his calves. 

Once the position is complete, he’ll have a chance to massage her buttocks while getting a sexy view of her enclosing his penis.  Turn up the heat by having him stroke her anus or perineum with a well lubricated finger.

For a highly stimulating, yet comfortable position, couples are urged to experiment with this dramatic, sensual position.  The Kama Sutra’s Fourth Posture places his member directly opposite her vulva, allowing him more control for smooth, deep penetration – not to mention a great view of her breasts, neck and face.

 The Fourth Posture starts with him sitting in an upright, kneeling position.  She will then climb on top, facing him with her arms around his neck, and will press her body against him, sitting on his penis.  Keeping her legs wrapped around his waist, he’ll gently lower her onto the bed, exposing her body.  Finally, she’ll slowly move her legs, one at a time, to rest on his shoulders, completing this L-shaped position.  For more stability, he can hold onto her hips as he moves.  And if you’re a little more experienced and more flexible, she can cross her ankles and holding her thighs, pull her legs towards her body for an erotic twist on this classic position.

 By having her full front exposed, it makes for easy access to several erogenous zones, including her breasts, naval and clitoris.  This position is perfect for G-spot stimulation – and for a blended orgasm.  This can be achieved by simultaneously stimulating the clitoris with his/her fingers and/or a vibrator.

Celebrate your inner environmentalist this summer with “The Pine Tree”, a visually stimulating position that takes it’s name from the way her legs, raised straight above her, resemble the trunk of a tree.  It’s erotic, yet intimate, with lots of face to face time and plenty of opportunity for both partners to take control.

Start this move with her lying on her back, relaxed.  He can take a moment to warm her up with a mini foot massage as he moves toward her, pulling her legs up into a vertical position.  At this point he should be kneeling behind her legs.  He will then take control by gripping her ankles.  He completes the technique by leaning forward onto his hands, putting his neck between her ankles and smoothly penetrating her.  Having her legs blocking him from her body creates an intense, erotic build-up.  When he can no longer stand it, he can take the position to the next level by again grabbing her ankles and spreading her legs into a wide V, opening her up to his thrusts.

This position may keep you from lip-locking but it’s a good chance to play it up with some saucy lip service.  She can talk dirty to him while stroking his thighs with her fingernails – and he can tell her how hot and naughty she looks, while biting and kissing her calves.

Stimulating the prostate can make a man’s orgasm much more intense.  Stimulating the area around and just inside the anus is extremely erotic and pleasurable for men.  Men have become more comfortable enjoying this erogenous zone without feeling any stigma and over the years at Honey we have expanded our selection of toys for P-spot play for couples discovering this area together and enjoying a sexually satisfying relationship.

Where is the Prostate?

The prostate is a walnut sized gland that is located above the perineum (the area just behind the testicles), below the bladder and behind the pubic bone.

The P-Spot is the area of the prostate gland that can be felt when you insert a well-lubed finger and gently curve your fingertips upwards towards his belly, about 1 – 2 inches inside.  Make sure your nails are well trimmed with no sharp edges!  It is not always easy to feel at first but with stimulation and arousal it will become larger and firmer and easier to feel and stimulate especially as he nears orgasm.

 Stimulating the P-Spot

 Use a firm yet gentle ‘come hither’ motion with your fingers for stimulating the P-spot. You want to press with a firm pressure but not too hard, as you do not want to cause pain, but firm enough that your partner can feel the stimulation.  Communicate openly (and erotically) and have him tell you to press harder or lighter.  Once you have an idea of the location of your man’s P-spot, using a toy designed with a curve for P-spot stimulation can be easier and more comfortable as you would just need to gently thrust against the prostate to provide added stimulation.

 You can use your fingers, toys and butt plugs to stimulate the P-spot.  Some great small toys such as the Fun Factory Bootie, Lelo Bob and Pandora are all curved to perfectly hit the P-spot and have enough flex and bend to provide comfort.  The Pandora also provides vibration and pulsating sensations for intense orgasmic pleasure.  Larger plugs and dildos such as the Fun Factory Bloomy and Nexus Neo are a little larger in size to provide a fuller sensation with the curved end for P-spot stimulation.

 Another option for the adventurous is the use of harness and curved dildo. She slips on a harness with a dildo such as the Bend of Beginner or Intermediate Kit and can “peg” him with the curved dildo to provide him with the sensation of fullness, intimacy and P-spot stimulation. When “pegging” him from behind you want to point the curved end of the dildo downwards towards his belly to maximize P-spot arousal.

 Safety and Trust

 Always make sure to communicate with your partner if something is uncomfortable or causing pain, especially with anal play you want to make sure you and your partner are comfortable with expressing your likes and dislikes.

 Keep your toys and hands clean when enjoying anal play. Make sure to fully clean your toys, we recommend silicone dildos, as they are non-porous and can be sterilize by boiling them or placing them into the dishwasher. Use a sex toy cleanser like Safe Suds or Climax Burst Sex Toy Cleanser to clean toys after each use and always wash your hands before and after playtime.

Lubricate, Lubricate, Lubricate!

Always make sure to lubricate the anal area and toy before insertion. Lubrication will help make everything slippery and increase sensitivity; smoothing the way for prostate enjoyment. A thick water based lubricant is recommended such as the Slippery Stuff, ID Glide or JO H2O.   Silicone based lubricants such as Pjur are also a great option if you are not using any silicone toys.  They do not dry out and even stays slippery under water!

Even if the name doesn’t appeal to you, the Gaping Position is bound to get your erotic imagination going.  If she likes being dominated this position is perfect – and she’ll feel extra naughty as he watches her with her legs spread wide and hips seductively raised. 

      Start the position by having him get in between her legs, with her lying flat on her back.  As he leans forward, she puts her feet flat on the bed and raises her knees.  Then in one smooth movement, he grabs onto her hips, glides her up his thighs and penetrates her.  If you’re having some trouble finding the right angle, use a few pillows or even better, some soft sex furniture like the Position Play Tilt or Iceberg, to prop up her bum. 

      Having her so open and exposed will be a big turn-on for both partners, and she can arch her back a little if she wants to really show off her breasts.  Add some variety by alternating control – she can take a turn by pressing down with her feet and grinding her hips.  You can also slow things down by having her sit up onto his lap for a few slow, kisses.

The pelvic floor muscles (also known as pubococcygeus or PC muscles) wrap around the internal genitalia of both men and women.  These muscles are important during sex because they involuntarily contract when you climax, and if you make an effort to perform kegal exercises regularly you can increase the strength and duration of your orgasms.  This is one of the many benefits of strong kegal muscles…read on to find out more!

Where are the pelvic floor muscles?

Think about waiting in line when you really need to go to the bathroom, the muscles holding your bladder from peeing involuntarily is the pelvic floor muscles.  You can isolate them by starting and stopping your urine mid-flow.  Kegal exercises are the conscious hold and release of these muscles for regular intervals. These exercises can be worked at any time, whether you’re on the bus, driving to work or chilling on the couch.

What are the benefits of Kegal Exercises?

Toning and strengthening your pelvic floor muscles has many benefits for men and women, including stronger more intense orgasms, more fully inflated erections for men,  increased blood flow to the erogenous zones making them more sensitive and receptive, including the G-spot in women and P-spot in men.  Men can also become multi-orgasmic by keeping his erection after the initial orgasm and having further orgasms without ejaculate (“dry” orgasms).  Including better sex, kegal exercise will improve vaginal tightness that may have been lost due to childbirth or age; it wards off incontinence and increases self lubrication. With all these benefits everyone should be exercising their pelvic floor muscles and it’s so easy!

How to Perform Kegal Exercises?

Kegal exercises can be performed solo or for women; with a toy, to help provide you with an item to press around.  You want to hold the muscles then release working your way up to being able to hold for 10 seconds, release then repeat. Just like working out at the gym. These exercises can be done anywhere at any time because no one else can see what you are doing. Be aware of your body and try not to contract your abdomen and butt muscles while performing your kegals.

For women there are a wide variety of toys and dildos to exercise with, one of the most popular kegal exercisers are the Ben Wa Balls. These small weighted gold balls are difficult to hold and really force you to exercise your muscles. The Fun Factory Smart Balls and Lelo Luna Balls are also a great choice, and they have the added bonus of an extra internal ball which rolls around as you exercise providing extra muscle toning and stimulation.  These vaginal exercise balls allow you to go about your day as usual because they are quiet and discreet but remember like starting an exercise routine, start with 10 minutes a day and work your way up.  You can also tighten and release using your partner’s penis during intercourse which he may enjoy.  Another great tool is a firm dildo such as the Lelo Ella or Slim Jim to help you exercise your pelvic muscles.

With all these benefits of Kegal exercises from great sex to better health there is no reason not to do them and have fun at the same time!